Growing up, many of us dreamed of being Princess Ariel, Jasmine, or Belle in Beauty and the beast. Disney started imprinting these ideas way early in my youth too. Funny enough, I used to swim in the pool and dream of Prince Eric coming to save me. Now I date a real man named Eric! 😉 I grew up and yet that princess mentality stayed with me for a while.
Lately the Queen archetype has been resonating deeply as I am moving through my own shifts around embodying my highest self. I am going on a retreat next month in San Diego and we are all bringing costumes that stretches us and liberates a new aspect of ourselves. My costume? A crown and a beautiful purple dress. Own that Queen, honey!! Stay tuned to see pictures. 😉
Learning to be the Queen of my life has been hard work. I’ve had to let go of reactivity and victimhood, start to own my power more, stop complaining, and take radical ownership of my life.
When we get real with ourselves, I think all of us can see our princess energy and how it holds us back.
The point isn’t to silently berate yourself, but to slowly bring yourself back to putting back on that crown, over and over again.
What is the difference between a Princess and a Queen? Let’s dive in.
Victim mentality. Everything happens TO her and she doesn’t take responsibility for her actions. When something goes wrong in her life, she blame others or external circumstances.
Distortion of reality. The damsel in distress wants Prince Charming to come along and sweep her off her feet. She wants to be rescued — from her finances, health, career, and the world.
Constant validation. Nothing makes a Princess smile more than others telling her how amazing she is. She needs her husband to tell her that she’s beautiful, her family to put her on a pedestal and her friends to celebrate her every move.
It’s all about me. She’s not concerned with how her actions affect others. For a princess, the world revolves around her.
There’s Not Enough. The Princess lives with a constant fear of lack and scarcity. She sees life through competition and comparison. Her deepest insecurity is not being good enough – Is she more successful/smarter/better than me?
Lacks Appreciation and Gratitude. The Princess can appear spoiled, because she tends to focus on what she doesn’t have versus all that she’s been blessed with.
Fear of looking bad. She will avoid looking bad, because that would mean she isn’t perfect. Her fixed mindset holds her back on so many levels. She doesn’t take risks. She avoids any situation that could expand her growth and might involve failure.