Have you ever gotten fixated on something that dragged your energy away from a goal you had in your life or business?
Maybe it was a negative comment you received that lead you into a spiral of overthinking or a distraction like getting caught up in someone else’s drama.
In this fun episode of The Illuminated Feminine Podcast, I’m talking about getting through ‘traffic coning’ – a term I coined that refers to getting fixated on problems that don’t move the needle in your business. In other words, little things that create resistance that pull your energy away from tasks, and ultimately your goal.
Examples of ‘traffic coning’ yourself –
*Getting caught in distractions (pulled into drama or sucked into creating inner stories about someone or something)
*Fixating on a negative comment you got, a mistake you made, or a bad review
*Taking things personally when things don’t go your way and going down a shame spiral
One traffic cone is fine – you just swerve around it. But when they line up, it can put you on a detour and totally derail your business efforts.
By the way, looping thoughts, worrying, or obsessing/fixating are a result of an out of balance cingulate gyrus (part of the limbic system of the brain).
These are some quick things you can do –
#1. Move your energy. Go dance, move your energy, play with a pet, or take a walk and come back to it. Say the mantra, “Bless and Release.”
You can also write out options and solutions when you feel stuck. Writing it down gets it out of your head and allows you to see it rationally.
#2. Set boundaries so that you can focus. This may look like you taking social media apps off your phone after a certain time, putting your phone on Do Not Disturb, or giving clear boundaries with clients and when they can communicate with you.
#3. Ultimately, don’t take anything personally. In the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, this is KEY. Nothing anyone does is because of YOU. Everyone is living in their own reality and their own ‘dream’ as the author calls it. This helped me big time to release and not take things so personally.